Dear Antonella, I wrote about this in a chapter of Why You’re Still Single called:”Diminishing Returns.” In it, a woman wonders why a man would invest time, energy and money in somebody he might not even care about.(There was originally a great joke about oral sex here that was later removed by editors, but the point remains the same.) A guy can want to fall in love, tell you you’re beautiful, treat you like a queen, and ravish you in the bedroom, and it still doesn’t give any indication that he’s actually interested. He’ll call you as soon as possible to make plans to see you again. Any other excuse, as pointed out ad nauseum in He’s Just Not That Into You, is meaningless.You’re not wrong, Antonella, for wanting to find some clarity in your relationship.It’s normal that, over the course of a month, your feelings would start to deepen and develop.And when you reach the point where you simply can’t live without the knowledge that you’re in a committed relationship, most likely, in a month or two, that’s when it’s time to have a real conversation with him.
Sure, sounds plausible enough, but it came off as a weak result.But one month is still a short period of time and unless you’re quite positive that he’s on the same love track as you are, I would lean back and play it cool.Instead of forcing him to have a potentially uncomfortable conversation before he’s figured out his feelings, why don’t you just wait to see him reveal his feelings?Because of the pervasive belief that sperm is cheap and eggs are expensive – the idea that women grant sexual access only to those who offer the best “value” – they tend to focus on the most obvious aspects of what supposedly makes men attractive: looks and material wealth, with “status” following third.The problem is that they’re working on the wrong areas and a misunderstanding of just what makes somebody appealing to women. more often than not it’s not even in the top 5 of what makes a man attractive.I showed him a copy of his ip trace.said I would die - be killed. He never asked for money, I thought I was always a step ahead of him.